Comments on: Why I Said ‘No’ So I Could Say ‘Yes’ http://www.teapartygirl.com/why-i-said-no-so-i-could-say-yes Teaching the Beautiful and Simple Afternoon Tea Sat, 13 Mar 2010 23:06:36 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.1 By: Jessica http://www.teapartygirl.com/why-i-said-no-so-i-could-say-yes#comment-3835 Jessica Thu, 16 Jul 2009 19:00:48 +0000 http://www.teapartygirl.com/why-i-said-no-so-i-could-say-yes#comment-3835 I am going to attempt to put this in a way as not to sound rude, but I believe not allowing your daughter to participate in the recital was very selfish on your part. I am a hard working mother of 3 and I have a full-time job. I have no one to help me and I work very hard to make sure my children are given wonderful opportunities. I may not enjoy the heat and sitting on bleachers all summer, but my son made the All-Star baseball team so I sacrifice time, comfort, and convenience to make sure he's at every practice and every game. He is definitely getting tired of it because it has consumed his entire summer, but I teach my children to finish what they start. If he doesn't want to play next year, then that's perfectly fine with me, but it won't be because I didn't want the hassle. My 3 year old started dance last August and she has absolutely LOVED it!!! How could I tell her she could not be in the recital? Yes, it is a lot of work, but when you see your baby up on the big stage dancing her little heart out, you realize that it was completely worth it!!! I purchased her recital video and she has watched it everyday since the recital and cannot wait until dance starts again. I'm sure there are some parents who cannot follow through with recitals or All-Stars due to finances, which is understandable, but inconvenience? That, I don't understand. I am going to attempt to put this in a way as not to sound rude, but I believe not allowing your daughter to participate in the recital was very selfish on your part. I am a hard working mother of 3 and I have a full-time job. I have no one to help me and I work very hard to make sure my children are given wonderful opportunities. I may not enjoy the heat and sitting on bleachers all summer, but my son made the All-Star baseball team so I sacrifice time, comfort, and convenience to make sure he’s at every practice and every game. He is definitely getting tired of it because it has consumed his entire summer, but I teach my children to finish what they start. If he doesn’t want to play next year, then that’s perfectly fine with me, but it won’t be because I didn’t want the hassle. My 3 year old started dance last August and she has absolutely LOVED it!!! How could I tell her she could not be in the recital? Yes, it is a lot of work, but when you see your baby up on the big stage dancing her little heart out, you realize that it was completely worth it!!! I purchased her recital video and she has watched it everyday since the recital and cannot wait until dance starts again. I’m sure there are some parents who cannot follow through with recitals or All-Stars due to finances, which is understandable, but inconvenience? That, I don’t understand.

]]> By: Denise http://www.teapartygirl.com/why-i-said-no-so-i-could-say-yes#comment-1937 Denise Tue, 12 Feb 2008 15:12:56 +0000 http://www.teapartygirl.com/why-i-said-no-so-i-could-say-yes#comment-1937 I grew up in Sacramento, and to this day remember the few years that we went Downtown to see the Nutcracker for the holiday season. My five year old daughter is now in dance and loving it. I congratulate you for taking a stand for your daughter and your sanity. The pressure to have your children experience everything is hard to deal with. I know that they get overwhelmed, I do. I think we only saw the ballet three times in my young life, plays also (Music Circus is great!) but I think that it made them all more memorable for being so special and infrequent. The one play my daughter has seen, she loved, but even Cinderellla couldn't hold her attention long. I am looking forward to the coming years as she grows to appreciate, and can sit through, the arts more. It is up to us parents to monitor the amount and quality of what they view, to encourage the next generation to love it as we do... I grew up in Sacramento, and to this day remember the few years that we went Downtown to see the Nutcracker for the holiday season. My five year old daughter is now in dance and loving it. I congratulate you for taking a stand for your daughter and your sanity. The pressure to have your children experience everything is hard to deal with. I know that they get overwhelmed, I do. I think we only saw the ballet three times in my young life, plays also (Music Circus is great!) but I think that it made them all more memorable for being so special and infrequent. The one play my daughter has seen, she loved, but even Cinderellla couldn’t hold her attention long. I am looking forward to the coming years as she grows to appreciate, and can sit through, the arts more. It is up to us parents to monitor the amount and quality of what they view, to encourage the next generation to love it as we do…

]]> By: Linda http://www.teapartygirl.com/why-i-said-no-so-i-could-say-yes#comment-1864 Linda Sat, 26 Jan 2008 15:38:07 +0000 http://www.teapartygirl.com/why-i-said-no-so-i-could-say-yes#comment-1864 Hi Jenny, This is a great site. We hope to see you soon at Earl Grey Manor. Hi Jenny, This is a great site. We hope to see you soon at Earl Grey Manor.

]]> By: kat http://www.teapartygirl.com/why-i-said-no-so-i-could-say-yes#comment-1679 kat Tue, 18 Dec 2007 16:29:13 +0000 http://www.teapartygirl.com/why-i-said-no-so-i-could-say-yes#comment-1679 I thought about taking my girls to see a fancy production of the Nutcracker, but by the time I looked up tickets, it would have cost $200. They are only 5 and 7 and with being in DC next year I feel sure they will have another opportunity to see the ballet. Glad you got to go and enjoy! I thought about taking my girls to see a fancy production of the Nutcracker, but by the time I looked up tickets, it would have cost $200. They are only 5 and 7 and with being in DC next year I feel sure they will have another opportunity to see the ballet.

Glad you got to go and enjoy!

]]> By: April http://www.teapartygirl.com/why-i-said-no-so-i-could-say-yes#comment-1678 April Tue, 18 Dec 2007 15:20:42 +0000 http://www.teapartygirl.com/why-i-said-no-so-i-could-say-yes#comment-1678 Great post! My twins are also in their first year of dance, and were given the chance to participate in their studio's "Velveteen Rabbit" production. We didn't do it, though thankfully they never even knew they had the chance. I was afraid that all that rehearsing in addition to their regular classes would burn them out on ballet before they ever got the chance to see what it was all about. They did enjoy the performance itself, which was quite lovely, and I probably will let them participate in a year or two (they are 7 now), but this year would have been too much, too soon, and I'm happy with the decision. Thankfully, I wasn't the only parent who made this decision - You are a brave woman to stay the course in the face of all that pressure. Great post! My twins are also in their first year of dance, and were given the chance to participate in their studio’s “Velveteen Rabbit” production. We didn’t do it, though thankfully they never even knew they had the chance.

I was afraid that all that rehearsing in addition to their regular classes would burn them out on ballet before they ever got the chance to see what it was all about. They did enjoy the performance itself, which was quite lovely, and I probably will let them participate in a year or two (they are 7 now), but this year would have been too much, too soon, and I’m happy with the decision.

Thankfully, I wasn’t the only parent who made this decision - You are a brave woman to stay the course in the face of all that pressure.

]]> By: Marie http://www.teapartygirl.com/why-i-said-no-so-i-could-say-yes#comment-1653 Marie Thu, 13 Dec 2007 23:03:34 +0000 http://www.teapartygirl.com/why-i-said-no-so-i-could-say-yes#comment-1653 I'd go with In n' Out anytime! I miss it! I’d go with In n’ Out anytime! I miss it!

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